HAVE YOU NOTICED? This “season” of COVID-19 has acted as BOTH a spotlight and a mirror in our love relationships and marriages. And for too many relationships, what it’s revealing ain’t pretty.
It reminds me of one of my favorite classic movies, The Wizard of Oz, when Toto, Dorothy’s little dog, manages to grab ahold of the curtain in the Wizard’s castle with his teeth and pulls it back. When he pulls back the curtain, the “game” the Wizard of Oz had been running, is exposed.
What Toto exposes is the TRUTH about the Wizard of Oz. The Wizard had everyone in the Land of Oz FOOLED and DUPED.
Dorothy and her traveling companions had been duped, too, believing that the “Great Oz” was all-powerful, held the key to what each of them believed they needed, and had the answers. But instead, he was really a short stubby little man, using “smoke and mirrors” (literally), and a voice amplifier to create a false and bigger-than-life image that was a farce.
Much of what we’ve been taught and told about how to “do” love relationships and marriage is a farce, too.
Unfortunately, complaint, low-grade frustration, dissatisfaction, pain, and even infidelity, has too often been the order of the day in both our marriage and non-marriage love relationships, alike. Did you know that the U. S. the HIGHEST divorce rates, and the LOWEST success rates for marriage IN THE ENTIRE WORLD (out of 196 countries)? And some of the highest frustration rates for non-marriage love relationships?
We’ve been taught and shown a model and approach that consistently creates more failure than success.
This “season” where we are seeing and feeling the COVID-19 Effect on our love relationships and marriages – is revealing the real deal going on “behind the curtain” of our love relationships.
As we’ve been forced to slow down, change our pace, and spend more time up-close for extended amounts of time with one another (or ourselves), what it’s revealed, is that MANY of our love relationships are in BAAAAD shape.
TOO MANY of our love relationships and marriages are actually in crisis, in breakdown, toxic, struggling, crippled, eroding, and disintegrating.
What’s really going on?
We’ve not realized that we’re following a relationships “model” that, by design, is an inherently FAILED model. The very “DNA” of our current approach is faulty.
Our current relationships paradigm is based upon a specific set of faulty beliefs and falsehoods I call the “Love Lies.” The Love Lies create S.T.D’s about juicy love relationships – Socially Transmitted Delusions. What we’ve been experiencing is the corresponding corrosive effects and outcomes of these faulty, misleading teachings and beliefs about love, relationships and marriage that you’ve been taught, told, and shown.
What I Learned When My Love Relationship was Brought to its Knees…
When my marriage was “brought to its knees” over a decade ago, and my husband and I were on the brink of divorce, the Holy Spirit led me into and through a relationships “rites of passage” that became the turning point for my marriage. During that “dark night of the soul,” I was guided and ushered into a NEW paradigm – one based upon the Love Truths instead of the Love Lies. The insights and “divine downloads” I received at that time not only transformed me and “saved” my marriage; but it transformed my marriage, into being JUICY and better than EVER.
And it is the most profound of those insights that apply to BOTH love relationships and marriage, I will be sharing with you in the Love Academy 101 Virtual Intensive.
In my VIRTUAL, TWO-PART, Live Love Academy 101 via Zoom, I will reveal what’s REALLY going on “behind the scenes” of our love relationships and marriages. And I promise you – it’s NOT what you think.
I will reveal what’s REALLY poisoning and undermining them, and how to begin to cut the cords and UN-HANDCUFF yourself and set yourself free from this “old” model.
The scales will be pulled off of your eyes, and you will be able to CLEARLY see how your Love Lies-infected thinking, behaving and communicating has created the very things that you DON’T like, DON’T want.
And for married women, contrary to popular belief and religious mis-teachings, having a JUICY covenant marriage is not about roles, compromise and negative self-sacrifice (this is NOT Scriptural) – though I KNOW that this what you’ve probably been taught by other well-meaning folks.
Get ready to have your mind blown, along with detonating your long-held beliefs about “how relationships work and how marriage works.” I’ve found that the LOVE LIES create HUGE BLINDSPOTS that we have in love relationships and marriages that we don’t even know are there.
The female Love Lies are a specific combination of false, faulty underlying beliefs specific to women (men have their own set), about relationships and marriage, that have become part of our “relationships conditioning,” starting as early as the ages of three and four. And virtually all of us are NOT aware that these poisonous culprits are there – alive, well, kickin’ and unknowingly operating in our love relationships and marriages.
The female Love Lies fuel and inform how we think, communicate, respond and behave in our relationships- ways that have fulfillment ELUDE us, and create high frustration, disappointment, and dissatisfaction.
The GOOD NEWS is that there’s ANOTHER WAY; there’s another paradigm and it’s based upon the Love Truths versus the Love Lies. There’s another way – and it yields deep satisfaction, fulfillment and self-expression, instead of frustration, irritation, and disappointment. And I’m here to teach it to you. By JUICY, I mean – you feel trusting, loved, deeply connected, adored, heard, and affirmed. A JUICY relationship nourishes and feeds your feminine spirit, mind and body, feeds your creativity and self-expression, and gives you an experience of freedom in your relationship.
For a woman, a JUICY relationship means that “THE FOUR A’s” are present, actively alive and well IN your relationship:
A JUICY relationship nourishes and feeds your feminine spirit, mind and body, feeds your creativity and self-expression, and gives you an experience of freedom in your relationship.
Yes, you may be a successful “Boss Chick” in your profession, career, business or ministry, however, you may have noticed that being a Boss Chick DOESN’T automatically mean that you’re able to attract AND sustain a juicy love relationship or marriage.
Actually, you might be experiencing the very opposite. The “arena” of love relationships is NOT aligned with the rest of your life.
Maybe it’s been the area that you still can’t get to “click,” where you may feel confused and confounded, and where you realize that you don’t have things figured out.
In the Love Academy 101, you will be introduced to spiritually-based Love Truths, liberating insights, principles and teachings that will “slingshot” you out of frustration, disappointment, complacency, resignation and irritation and into new realms of relationship JUICY-NESS, fuller self-expression, new levels of communication, joy, and the desired responses you want from men (or your husband).
SPECIAL FOR ALUMNI / GRADS OF PREVIOUS LOVE ACADEMY 101 INTENSIVES
NOTE: Alumni/Grads of previous Love Academy 101 Intensives that to AUDIT the Course, and current OR past Juicy Woman Universe-ity (JWU) students, can register with a special discounted rate (enrollment lists will be cross-referenced). A LIMITED NUMBER of seats are being reserved for Love Academy grads and Juicy Woman Universe-ity (JWU) current and former students.
Please send an EMAIL to request the special link to: [email protected] and TYPE into the subject line, “SPECIAL LOVE ACADEMY RATE”
You will be sent your Workbook, How Men Tick Audio Program and the Zoom Link 2 days PRIOR to the Course.
Questions? Please call the Love Academy Office: 206-878-8163
Best-selling Author, Transformational Life Coach and Relationships Mentor
Debrena Jackson Gandy is a nationally published best-selling author of three books, a former TV Show Host, guest on over 50 radio shows and podcasts, an international speaker, world traveler, life and relationships coach and mentor, spiritual midwife, and transformational facilitator to thousands.
As Founder of the Love Academy, Debrena is a ground-breaking Relationships Visionary that keeps her audiences riveted and on the edge of their seats wanting more.
She’s designed and facilitated Love Academy Intensives around the country in cities such as New York, Philadelphia, Chicago, Atlanta, WA D. C., Baltimore, Raleigh, Oakland, Denver, Wilmington, Silver Spring, and Sacramento. Thus far at least 51 new marriages have occurred among her Love Academy students.
She has been featured in magazines such as Oprah’s O, Essence, Ebony, Woman’s Day and Black Enterprise and has been seen on TV on Sistercircle, CNN, CNN Live, C-SPAN, the Wisdom Channel, in Washington D. C’s Good Day D. C, Good Morning Texas, Good Day New York, and on local regional talk shows such as Seattle’s New Day Northwest, and Portland’s Afternoon Live. She’s also been seen on sites such as Oprah.com, Jetmag.com, Redbook.com, and SoulofAmerica.com.